Let yourself be broken
We are a guarded generation. Our parents and grandparents have practiced protective measures for a long time, this has passed on to us.
The world calls both men and women to be ok, to handle things on their own and get over it.
Grieving is not allowed.
Lamentation is not practiced.
We lift people up so they are not sad rather than grieving with them.
The problem with modern grieving is that it becomes silent… We end up lifting ourselves up using our own strength. As we don’t depend on anyone, no one comes to our aid.
elements keeping you away from accepting help
Pride
Hyper-independence
Self-pity
Codependence
We cannot do things on our own.
We need help.
We were not created as isolated individuals.
We come from a woman and a man.
We are grown and birthed by a woman (as controversial as that may be now).
The baby is dependant of the mother for food, and the mother is dependant of the father for provision and protection.
The father is dependant on his work, and his work on people.
Those people are depending on other people, and so on.
One aspect we overlook is that the One we all need is our Heavenly Father.
In times of suffering, through trials, when people seem to leave and loneliness befalls as a tone of bricks over us… when we look around even in crowded places and feel alone, when the weight of the world seems upon our shoulders, when we have loved ones sick, family death, break up, terminal illness, job termination… the world as we know it seems to stop.
But for everyone else, it continues… and it is agitating. We want to hold on to it still to maybe process what’s happening… but it continues… so we hide from it. We stay within our own space. We do not talk to others. We isolate. We think (or not) the grief and shock will pass if we do this. We take ‘time’ from the busy world and slow down.
Within might be a host of feelings staggering. This might bring confusion and anger. The more we let them simmer, the bigger they get and the deeper we go.
As we start descending, we have a great opportunity to confront our pain , our anxieties, depression, addiction, worthlessness, desperation, confusion, anguish… but some feel the need to lift themselves up and out. To ‘get on with life’, to not continue feeling uncomfortable, to protect themselves from what is at the other side of feeling completely and releasing honestly, openly.
They do not want to go deeper…
The answer many times is in the depth.
In the depth of feeling completely and utterly broken. In such a state of desperation that they spiral to the lowest point until they reach it… rock bottom.
Rock bottom is emotionally the place of no hope for going further on our own.
This is where the Holy Spirit is invited in.
A broken spirit is healed by the Holy Spirit.
A broken heart is healed by Jesus Christ.
Let yourself be broken.
This means your heart has softened enough to let the Holy Spirit in.
This means your guard is completely down.
This means you have NOTHING to loose.
This means the shattering of the old self that could no longer keep going with things how they were.
God takes your pieces and creates not only a new heart for you, He makes you into a masterpiece, He gives you a mission, He gives you a testimony.
Psalm 34:18
“The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.”
Be broken.
He will come.
In brokenness there is humility.
In brokenness there is meekness.
In brokenness there is quiet…
God exalts the humble, meek and quiet in spirit.
Don’t hold it all together, let Jesus hold you.
Give it all to Him.
scripture
Matthew 11:28-30
Jesus says “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.”