Psalm 62:5:
"Yes, my soul, find rest in God; my hope comes from him"
Isaiah 41:10:
"So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand."
Restored and Loved:
Healing from Abuse through Christ
This page is for women who have experienced physical, emotional, spiritual, or psychological abuse and are looking for support, guidance, and trusted resources to help them heal, find freedom in Christ, and feel encouraged and valued along the journey.
Psalm 147:3 – “He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.”
Psalm 147:3 – “He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.”
background and confession
I share this because I care, and because I’ve been there. For years, I carried the vivid weight of past experiences, triggered by familiar patterns that left me hurt again and again. Through it, the Lord showed me that some of this pain was rooted in my earliest years, and the people I gravitated toward were often repeating the same cycles that wounded me.
By God’s grace, I have forgiven, though sometimes memories still surface and the pain returns. These moments are shorter and less consuming than before, and I’ve learned that healing is a process, a process where the impact of the past lessens over time, and our dependence on Christ as Savior grows stronger.
Understanding how Jesus respected, loved, and elevated women was transformative for me. He was not only an earthly man, He is God incarnate, compassion and love personified. He chose us, set us apart, and took our stains to present us to the Father as spotless. This is the Jesus who holds my whole heart and continues to heal it every day.
First, I want to say I am deeply sorry for what you have gone through. I do not know your full story, but if you are reading this, I know it was not good. Please know this: you did not deserve it. Abuse is not God’s plan for His children. What you experienced is wrong, painful, and ungodly, and it is not a reflection of your worth or value in His eyes.
Books, courses, and online resources can be helpful, but they do not replace professional guidance. I personally went through five different counselors, all confirming that I was caught in a cycle of domestic abuse. This page is dedicated to the professionals, friends, and the Lord Himself, who guided me to see the truth, accept help, and step toward freedom, healing, and restoration. Please seek trusted guidance if you can.
I will bless the Lord who counsels me - Even at night when my thoughts trouble me. I always let the Lord guide me. Because he is at my right hand, I will not be shaken.
Psalm 16:7-8
Below are some of the books and courses that helped me along the journey.
I am not affiliated with any of them, and I do not earn any commission. These links are shared purely for your benefit:
Healing Well and Living Free from an Abusive Relationship by Dr Ramona Probasco – A step‑by‑step journey from victim to survivor to overcomer, drawing on the author’s personal experience and therapeutic expertise to help readers name abuse, break the cycle, and pursue genuine healing and freedom.
When Loving Him Is Hurting You by Dr David Hawkins – A compassionate, practical guide to identifying narcissistic and emotionally abusive behavior in a partner, understanding how it affects you, and finding a path to healing and freedom rooted in truth and courage.
When to Walk Away by Gary Thomas – A Christian guide that helps you recognize toxic people and unhealthy relational patterns, learn when to set boundaries or step away, and focus on God’s calling and healthy connections.
The Emotionally Destructive Relationship by Leslie Vernick – A resource that teaches how to see, stop, and survive emotionally abusive and destructive relational patterns with biblical wisdom and practical tools for safety and healing.
Good Boundaries and Goodbyes by Lysa TerKeurst – A biblically grounded book on setting healthy boundaries, protecting your heart, and learning when it is loving and necessary to say goodbye to relationships that are harmful.
20 Lies That Keep You With Your Abuser by David E. Clarke, PhD – A book that identifies and refutes the common lies and fears that keep victims stuck in abusive relationships, offering biblical truth and small action steps to break the cycle of Christian codependency and move toward freedom.
Other Recommendations:
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